Be A Man (Podcast Episode 50)

Be A Man (Podcast Episode 50)


Toxic masculinity and abusive church leadership tend to go hand-in-hand. And the recent reports about the abuses of Mark Driscoll at Trinity Church in Scottsdale Arizona illustrate that to painful effect. 

In this episode, we discuss the details of Driscoll’s abuses and discuss how they reveal a toxic need for control and submission that too often exists in evangelical circles. 

We also take a look at toxic leaders in the bible, including King Saul and King David. We explore the insecurities that led to Saul’s paranoia, and the way David’s abuses of power led to instability in the kingdom later in his life. 

Here are the sources we cite in this episode regarding the recent events at Mark Driscoll’s church:

If you have any questions you’d like to submit about this episode or have other topics of conversation you’d like us to explore in future episodes, you can connect with us over on our contact page. We’re looking forward to hearing from you and we’re excited to journey with you!


There's a particular brand of masculinity that we can joke about, but it can really be quite toxic and dangerous, particularly when it's in a place of power. Click To TweetDriscoll has recently seemed to become a caricature of himself, but his actions still aren't unique to the experience of evangelical culture. Click To TweetWhen you have an insecure leader, it's actually dangerous for the people who are underneath him. Click To TweetAn insecure, toxic leader is usually a domineering leader. Click To TweetLeadership is a difficult thing. It's an uncertain thing. So if you're coming from a place of a deep character flaw or deep insecurity, it can really lead you down a bad path. Click To TweetIt's the kind of leader who always tries to control the situation and aggrandize himself that is not fit for leadership. Click To TweetWhen you have power-hungry, controlling leaders, there's always a toxic environment that results from that. Click To TweetWe can't use David and Bathsheba as an excuse for why we continue to enable toxic leaders. Click To TweetWe all have sins and flaws. But when those sins and flaws are heightened by virtue of you having power and authority, you shouldn't have power and authority. Click To TweetPower is not something that we should really want. Whenever we see someone in the bible with power, the most absolute that power is, the faster things seem to go south. Click To TweetWe all know what it feels like when we're in a toxic situation. There's a certain knot in your stomach and a certain sickness that comes over you. Listen to that instinct. Click To TweetWe need to be able to remove ourselves from toxic environments, as well as remove whatever is causing that environment to be toxic. Click To Tweet

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